It is widely reported that majority of domestic violence victims are women, abuse of men also happens daily. Typically, men are physically stronger than women but that doesn't necessarily make it easier to escape the violence. Figures suggest that as many as one in three victims of domestic violence are male. However, men are often reluctant to report abuse by women because they feel embarrassed, or they fear they won't be believed, or that police will assume that since they're male they are the perpetrator of the violence and not the victim.
People found it difficult understanding why a woman who is being abused doesn't simply leave. When the roles are reversed, and the man is the victim of abuse, people are more even bemused. Therefore, abused men may have to stay in the relationship because of these reasons:
- May want to protect their children
They worry that if they leave, the spouse will harm the children or prevent them from having access to their children. Obtaining custody of children is always challenging for fathers.
- They feel ashamed
Many men feel great ashame that they've been beaten down by a woman or failed in their role as protector and provider for the family.
- Religious beliefs
This dictates that you stay or your self-worth is so low that you feel this relationship is all you deserve.
- Lack of resources
Many men have difficulty being believed by the authorities, or their abuse is minimized because they're male, and can find new resources to help abused men.
- Same sex relationship
Men in a same sex relationship but haven't come out to family, friends and are afraid their partner will out them.
- Denial
Just as with female domestic violence victims, denying that there is a problem in the relationship will only prolong the abuse. You may believe that you can help your abuser or she may have promised to change. But change can only happen once your abuser takes full responsibility for her behaviour and seeks professional treatment.
Source: Helpguide
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